Does being a recruiter change you?
I’ve always considered myself a happy-go-lucky type kind of guy. I have a pretty positive outlook on life, tend to roll with the punches and generally think that, regardless of what the TV says, the world is an ok place, apart from a few knobs.
So when the following happened I had to take a moment to have a word with myself…..
After a challenging day at the recruitment coalface I got home a bit frazzled and grizzly. I had had a deal fall over, a candidate go walkabout before a final interview and a battle with a client not paying an invoice…. you know the sort of stuff…. it’s all in a day’s work for a recruiter, although this one was a particularly trying day.
“How was your day dear?” asks my wife.
“F…ing rubbish…..…blah blah blah ….why wasn’t he honest with me….blah blah blah….wasted my time….blah blah blah….wanker…..people…..grrr…..I’m giving up recruitment and going to write a book instead…..blah blah blah….”
“You’ve changed” she replied whilst quickly exiting stage left.
Her comment was tongue in cheek…but to be fair it was quite a rant I spewed out and it was unusual for me. I am far more likely to take my frustrations out on a cheeky bottle of red and a bad Man Utd performance. I just put it down to a bad day. But did she have a point? Have the day to day frustrations of 15 years in recruitment finally got the worse of me and turned me into a bitter, annoyed, angry misery guts? Have I changed?
I hope not…. well, not too much anyway.
I have certainly developed a healthy dose of cynicism and distrust over the years. And I have become less tolerant of idiots, tougher and I am sporting a few more grey hairs. But I see these as mostly positive changes and think they actually make me a better recruiter.
Hopefully I never get to the point where I am distrusting everyone, walking around with a big chip on my shoulder, or ‘finding that I am hating everyone these days’ as one recruiter told me this week.
What about you? Have you changed much since being a recruiter?
PS If recruitment hasn’t taken it’s toll on you yet, and you want to make sure it doesn’t, working in the right business will help….like these guys for example.